Conflict and boundaries

Conflict and boundaries

One of the first words that toddlers learn is “No,” which I used to think this was a bad thing. After all, I’m more of a “yes” person. I want to be helpful. I want to be of service. I don’t want to let people down. I learned this in my family of origin. In some ways,...

And God saw Hagar

And God saw Hagar

I did not expect to hear from the women seated in a makeshift tent at Arkoum refugee camp in eastern Chad, 43 miles from the Sudan border. On that 86-degree day last December, we met with several leaders of newly arrived Sudanese refugees. Many of these leaders were...

A priceless gift

A priceless gift

In 1993, my husband and I moved from Southern California where I’d grown up to Berkeley, where I would begin graduate school. I was excited to be on this new adventure with the man who had been my high school sweetheart. We were off on our own, and anything was...

Just prayers

Just prayers

Thank you to those who submitted prayers. You’ll find a variety of prayers for joyous or difficult times, as well as moments when you or others need reassurance. For congregations Gracious and loving God, we thank you for congregations that create sacred spaces where...

Dog days of summer

Dog days of summer

Shu-shu sprawls at my feet. She exudes a jolly, earthy grace. What a happy accident (or is it divine humor?) that “dog” is “god” spelled backwards! This dog keeps me in the now. This wasn’t my idea. She’s a 2020 COVID puppy. Our family had just moved to Albuquerque,...

Domestic abuse resources

Domestic abuse resources

ELCA Gender-Based Violence study guide for Participants ELCA Gender-Based Violence study guide for Leaders ELCA social message on Child Protection Domestic Violence Awareness Month - National Domestic Violence Hotline Domestic violence statistics - National Domestic...

A force of nature

A force of nature

Think for a moment about how society has historically portrayed “Christian women.” I bet certain images spring readily to mind. A demure young woman, head bowed in prayer. A kind, motherly, pulled-together lady in a sweater set or a fabulous hat, depending on one’s...

Call for prayers

Call for prayers

Women of the ELCA is creating a pocket-size prayer book, “Just Prayers,” for use in a variety of situations—joyous times, difficult times, moments when we need/offer reassurance, days when love and justice are needed. We are looking for prayers written with faith that...

Be not afraid!

Be not afraid!

March 25th is the celebration of the Annunciation. On this day, we remember the angel coming to Mary with the words, “Be not afraid.” By most accounts, Mary had many reasons to be afraid. Simply encountering a powerful spiritual being is cause for one to tremble. In...

Tell us: How do friendships enhance your life?

Tell us: How do friendships enhance your life?

Friends can make us laugh, know the right things to say when we are going through a tough time – and even finish our sentences for us! Friends look out for us and have our best interests at heart. For an upcoming issue of Gather magazine, we will feature a story about...

The hardest part of parenting 

The hardest part of parenting 

No parent or caregiver wants to get a call from the school principal’s office. Last year, I got that call. “I have your son here in the office with me,” said a school administrator, adding, “There was bullying on the playground.” She relayed the offenses, which...

In the image of God

In the image of God

If you were to attend Sunday service at Holly Grove Lutheran Church in Lexington, North Carolina, you might notice that Pastor Anna E. Carter rarely leads worship alone. As she sets the table, serves communion, and processes down the aisle, there is a little boy at...

Repentance opens the door

Repentance opens the door

I’d make a terrible career criminal. I have major qualms about taking more than one sample cup of salsa at Costco. I always follow up if I’ve been under-charged for something, and never fail to make good on the transaction. I still burn with shame as I recall my...